The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
John Gottman, Ph.D
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Quick summary:
This book is quite fun to work through, and has many ideas that bridge to any relationship - marriage, friendship, and even teams.
Book report:
There are several important ideas in this book. My favourite are:
- Enhance your love maps. This is like dating again. We have children now and that changes all of our time. It’s easy to let that continue at the detriment of our relationship, but this section has hundreds of fun questions to walk through to get the conversation going again, to continue learn about each other and to grow together.
- Learn to make and recognise repair attempts. Repair attempts come in many forms from a smile or a chuckle to a full out apology. I am sorry can be very hard to say - but the more we accept apologies, especially sincere but imperfect apologies, the easier it is to make them. Connection cannot exist without disconnection, but when we repair successfully, or connections are stronger than they were before the disconnection.
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